Do you sometimes feel that your life like is a game of pinball? Constantly rushing from here to there? Head spinning with all of the things you need to do and places that you need to be? Do you have the words “hurry up or we will be late” or “we don’t have time for that” on repeat?
Life is busy, no doubt about it! But all of this rushing around has negative impacts on yours and your family’s health and wellbeing.
- It causes stress – headaches, guilt, anxiety, feeling flushed, moody, frustrated (We’ve all felt it)
- You don’t get to appreciate anything – your mind in never on what you are doing it is always one step ahead pulling you towards the next task. Your child may be talking to you but you’re not really hearing what they are saying because you’re thinking ‘yes, yes, that’s lovely, come on now, dinner’s not going to cook itself!’ (We’ve all done it!)
- Multi-tasking is actually less effective – it can lead to mistakes, clumsiness and forgetfulness (I definitely feel the forgetfulness)
- You eat less healthily – you may not opt for fast food and may have healthy meals but rushing to eat can have negative effects on our digestive system. Rushing may also mean that you eat less, because you ‘don’t have time to eat’ or you may ‘comfort eat’ and consume more.
There’s always a million reasons as to why we are in a hurry, but then I realised in truth, I’m either just not allowing enough time or I’m not managing that time well enough. Either way it’s me who needs to reassess the situation and make the changes. So I did and the difference a few changes made were amazing!
- Look at your schedule – there are some things that we can’t change and some things that we can. Be brutal! Think, is this part of my schedule absolutely essential? Is there another way that it can be done? Can I move this to that day maybe? Children do not need to be busy, in fact attending a constant run of different classes and clubs can have negative effects on their development and wellbeing. Activities are great, as long as they do not overwhelm us. We all need time to be as much as we do, to relax and to enjoy.
- Don’t be afraid to say no! You can not do everything and be everything to everyone. Don’t take on too much, listen to your body and trust your instincts. (Something that I have had to learn and its hard but necessary)
- Get organised and plan, plan the week ahead, re-visit the plan again every night and keep on top of your plan. Plan for the unexpected (your child spilling a cup of water, or wanting to spend half and hour putting on their sock only to then ask you to do it, it will happen!)
- Stick to the plan and give your full attention to what you are doing at that time. Don’t let your mind wonder and don’t get distracted.
- Reflect and reassess, if something didn’t work, why didn’t it work? How can it be done differently? Change it and try again.
- Stop and slow down! When you feel yourself rushing, stop, gather your thoughts, refocus and re-start.
Since I got organised, managed my time better and managed my children’s time better, I actually feel like I have so much more time in my day. This is because I am using my time more efficiently and I am therefore much more productive. I am not just on time for things but early (most of the time!) there will be times when rushing is unavoidable but on the whole life is so much better!
Please do let me know how you get on and if you have found this post helpful, please do leave a comment and feel free to share.
Founder of Sunny Kids Shine